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  • Writer's pictureAmelia Harshfield

how to use affirmations so you can live more authentically

Updated: Oct 13, 2023

Affirmations, statements you write once a day, engage the subconscious to start looking for different information to move you in a new direction. That means you can use your subconscious to start reprograming your beliefs. If you write affirmations every morning, that will give your subconscious time throughout the day to be on the lookout for what you've written. These can be used for deep healing work, including freeing yourself from blocks. That means you can train your subconscious to help you learn healthier behavior and beliefs.

You heal what you are aware of, which is in your consciousness. You are aware of things in your consciousness, so you can see the limiting belief and the impact of that. Behaviors that you are kind of aware of but still run your life from the background are stored in your subconscious. Often if you have Trauma and wounding in your past your subconsciousness is picking up information from the limiting beliefs that keeps you in those unhealthy patterns. These beliefs often control your life in ways of which you are unaware. We all have them, it's normal. But if you come from a challenging childhood you may have these holding you back from where you want to go. Using affirmations is like erasing a tape that is playing limiting beliefs and putting one over it that is healthy.

Affirmations can be used to overcome Trauma because they will help look for things that you might not be aware of yet. It will guide you toward things you have a hunch about but are not sure why. For example, have you ever been interested in something but are unsure of the reason? Then after learning more about the topic you learn it's something you've been curious about for your life? That is your subconscious guiding you. You're kind of aware of it but not fully.

Often what is coming out of our subconscious is confusing because it's not fully understood or it challenges what is already known. For example, multiple people online suggested reading Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving by Pete Walker. I wasn't sure why I was interested in it but from what others said online I was curious. As I was reading it, I inhaled the information but part of me was confused as to whether this really applied to me. Then about halfway through the book I finally realized that I do have C-PTSD. My subconscious was pulling me toward the topic so I could work on healing that wound in my life. But it took time to process the fact that I do have C-PTSD.

To harness the power of affirmations you need to understand how to use them correctly. Not all affirmations are helpful. Writing down negative affirmations will prevent you from achieving what you want to achieve. Affirmations like "I don't want to be codependent anymore" will not help move past that limiting belief. Make affirmations positive and feel good when you write them. Another trick is writing "I'm learning" in front of the affirmation. Some struggle with the black and white aspect of feeling inadequate while writing "I'm adequate" every day. It's too much of a leap to go from one to the other. Affirmations are essentially teaching you a new skill. If you knew how to move there, you would already be there. So be gentle with yourself while you're in the process. Writing "I'm learning" in front of affirmations will help your subconscious recognize this is a new skill and soften it into going in that direction.

Along with being positive, write affirmations at least once a day until you feel you've learned the lesson (you'll know when to stop). They're important to cement into your subconscious until you've turned the corner. Use only a handful of them at a time. If you're writing 15 affirmations a day your subconscious will be too overwhelmed to learn any of them. Take these slowly. What thoughts come out when you're writing are your limiting beliefs? From that, you can be aware of the thoughts that are holding you back. Don't let those limiting beliefs stop you. Keep using the affirmations.

Examples of affirmations:

I'm learning how to love myself.

I'm learning I can have what I want.

I'm learning how to have a healthier relationship.

I'm learning how to speak up for myself.

I'm learning how to say no better.

Affirmations coupled with understanding the Four People Within work can heal any wound. Thousands of people have used these to move beyond what they are struggling with. For more about that check out the blogs titled upgrade your life by understanding the Four People Within, parts one and two.

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